The Other Person's Shoe

 


The Other Person’s Shoe

As we go through life, we are always making expert comments on all kinds of situations. We come across people who are sailing through life, who appear happy or sad, who are struggling, who resort to crime or cheating, who work hard for no tangible benefit, etc. and we invariably start making assumptions about such persons! These assumptions are based on our own experience without having a clue as to the other person’s situation. Our subconscious mind is filled with memories which we are not even aware of and when a unique incident takes place in our life, we jump to a conclusion based on what the subconscious mind throws out – the ordinary person is not even aware of the subconscious mind – the thought just pops up in the mind and that then becomes your reality!

Any incident that takes place requires three things – yourself, someone else and a set of circumstances which result in some incident. In this we have control only on ourself. We cannot control the circumstances nor can we control the behaviour of the other person or persons in the given situation. If the situation is going out of control, the best thing to do is try and put yourself in the other person’s shoes and try to see the situation from that person’s point of view. If you learn to do that then you will invariably be able to manage the situation calmly.

How we react in any given situation is in our hands. Meditation teaches us to stay calm and focused. When we exude an aura of calmness then that has an impact on our surrounding circumstances and also rubs off on the other protagonists in the situation. Conflict invariably is caused by an angry response to an adverse situation. Anger usually is a result of fear of consequences – you do not know how to react – anger is the defensive mechanism to hide that fear. Anything said or done in anger will only have negative consequences.

So, to best judge any given situation learn to put yourself in the other person’s shoes – look at the situation from the other point of view, then your own point of view and you will always find a way out of any situation which does not hurt either party. Regular meditation helps you maintain equilibrium, be balanced in your actions and reactions. When we learn to live in the moment all our actions and reactions are always positive and have a beneficial effect under most circumstances. Stay balanced, stay focused, learn to assess situations from all angles and all will be well!

 

 


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