Giving a Helping Hand

 

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Giving a Helping Hand

What’s the point in blaming or disliking others? The approach should be to avoid such persons and don’t go near them. Swamiji keeps saying that if you are uncomfortable in and around certain people or conversations, don’t participate or inter-mingle, just move away. If you do participate you are most likely to end up in an argument which will only end up hurting you. The best thing to do is first try and analyse for yourself – why don’t I like this person?

There may be certain things that you do not like about a person, the way they behave, the way they do things, how they speak and so on. But that should not affect you – ask yourself, “Have I not behaved in a similar manner earlier at some point or the other?” Maybe you learnt your lesson then with whatever consequences you had to face because of that behaviour, so now you feel that you have a right to question others or to look down upon them!

Such people will learn their own lessons, we do not have to feel superior and admonish them. By doing so, we are just putting our ego up on display! Everyone learns their own lessons over a period of time – some quickly, some after making the same mistake again and again. The universe always punishes with greater intensity each time a mistake is repeated – so instead of admonishing, it is better to advise and tell such people about your experiences in similar situations.

By doing this you are showing compassion and understanding. Swamiji always talks about being selfless, loving selflessly – so let this come to the fore and you will find that you feel good and helpful too. When you think in this manner, then your dislike for that person disappears, your attitude is now positive as opposed to superior and negative.

You may even feel like helping that person, but if you can’t, then just give advice and allow that person to take his or her own decision, let that person take his or her own time to learn and grow. All of us are not on the same level, with proper understanding we will have no difficulty in liking everyone. Of course, there are a lot of people out there who are not good for you, but let your own aura protect you – such people will not come anywhere close to you!

So, if you cannot help a person then at least do not dislike him or her. People grow through their mistakes – the school of life teaches everyone – some learn early, some take time. That’s why never hesitate to give more chances to people – give a helping hand rather than a condemning one!