Give a Helping Hand

 

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Give a Helping Hand

We have all come across situations in life where we find ourselves struggling, but because of our sense of self-respect we never seek help from others. Most of the time we end up blaming or disliking others for the situation that we find ourselves in. There is a very simple rule which Swamiji keeps telling us about, if you feel uncomfortable in the presence of certain people just excuse yourself politely and leave. There is absolutely no need to participate in any discussion which makes you uncomfortable or where you feel negative vibes! Also, be careful not to condemn or bad-mouth persons in that group.

A better way is to find out why you don’t like a particular person – whether you don’t like the person per se, or some habits, the way the person talks or behaves. Once you make this analysis, ask yourself, “Have I too not behaved like this at some point or the other? So, why am I feeling antagonized?” Maybe you have learnt your lesson and moved on, but the other person has not, maybe that behaviour is reminding you of your past behaviour thus subconsciously upsetting you!

Post analysis, once you pinpoint the reason why you get upset, it would be best to let the others too learn from their mistakes and if possible, extend a helping hand. Have compassion and understanding – once you start thinking in this manner, you will stop disliking such people and you may even be able to extend a helping hand! In case you cannot help, then at least allow that person to take his or her own time to learn and grow.

All of us are not at the same level. With meditation, your inner voice gets activated, your aura develops and those people not inimical to you will not even cross your path. With proper understanding of people and their situations there won’t be too much difficulty in liking others. Even now if you dislike someone, means there is room for introspection, to find out what it is within you that is reflecting on the outside world. You will learn that it is your lack of understanding of that person which is making you dislike him/her.

People who do manage to break into your aura for whatever reason, and you sense the dislike, then you need to step back and analyse the reason. That person may be the biggest sinner who has made terrible mistakes in the past, but disliking that person today is also a mistake. People grow by making mistakes, and that’s why we should never hesitate to give more chances to people. Always give a helping hand rather than a condemning one.