Domination and Ego

 

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Domination and Ego

It is best if we do not try and influence others, unless advice is being given selflessly. Also, we ourselves should be alert and ensure that no one is directly or indirectly influencing us. The ego can do both, but it cannot remain in the middle. When the ego tries to influence, then it feels good dominating others; also, the ego feels good when it is being dominated by others. Like Osho would say, “the masters feel good because so many slaves are dominated, and the slaves feel good because they are being dominated."

There are two types of minds in the world – the mind of those who dominate, typically the masculine mind; and the mind that likes to be dominated, typically the feminine mind. You will find males with a feminine mindset and also females with a masculine mindset – so this is not restricted to the male and female only.

These are two types of minds: one which likes to dominate and the one which likes to be dominated. Both the ways the ego is satisfied, because whether one is dominating or one is being dominated – it is always ‘I’ which is either dominating or being dominated! ‘I’ is particularly important in this game. If someone dominates ‘you’, then ‘you’ becomes important, simply because the dominator depends on ‘you’ for his domination to succeed. Without ‘you’ where will he be? Without ‘you’ his domination does not exist. Without ‘you’ he is nobody.

Ego is fulfilled at both the extremes, only in the middle does the ego die. Do not be dominated and do not try to dominate. Just think what will happen to ‘you.’ ‘You’ are not important in any way, not significant in any way, neither as a master nor as a slave. Masters cannot live without slaves and slaves cannot live without masters – they need each other, they are complementary. Just like men and women, they are complementary. The other is required for their fulfillment.

It is best not to be either – then the question arises – ‘Who are you?’ Suddenly the ‘you’ disappears because the ‘you’ is not significant at all; nobody depends on ‘you’, ‘you’ are not needed. One always has this great desire to feel needed, to feel important.

We all feel good when we are needed, it gives us this sense of being important. Even when this feeling gives us misery, even then we love this sense of being needed. It is best to meditate under the guidance of a living Master and learn to drown our ‘I’ – sense and there by our sense of domination and ego.