Helping Others

 

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Helping Others

When we go for propagation of Samarpan Meditation, we go as representatives of our Guru. How we speak and behave becomes a reflection about our Guru. We need to assimilate the qualities of our Guru and become empty pipes – pure mediums to help promote this meditation. The best way to learn a thing is to teach it. And we grow more when we are less concerned about our own growth and more concerned with others’ growth, their problems. Deep down no problem is such that it is not ours. Every human being carries on the same type of problem; degrees differ, but they’re almost the same problems.

So, when we are helping somebody to resolve something, to decide something, to come out of a vague, confused state, to centre, to be rooted, grounded; whenever we are helping somebody, we become aware of many things about our own selves, because they are our problems also. When we help somebody to really solve a problem, we ourselves have attained a key.

It is difficult when we are really involved in our own problem because we are too close to it; we cannot be observers, we cannot be aloof and neutral. We cannot be witnesses when the problem is ours. But when the problem is somebody else’s, we are wise, and we learn a lot. When the problem comes in our own life, we will be able to cope with it more easily, because we know that the problems are just problems; they don’t belong to anybody else. And keys are just keys. Solving many problems of others, we are solving our own life, and by helping others, we ourselves are helped.

That’s why we should start helping others. In the beginning we feel a little apprehensive, because we know that we cannot even help our own self. Once we know this, we should become occupied with something to get out of our self-concern. Sometimes the self-concern is the only hindrance. When we help others, we have moved out of our own ego, we are more relaxed. This happens every day in life.

When a surgeon is operating on his own wife, it will be difficult, almost impossible to do so. His hands will tremble. He may be a great surgeon, but when it comes to his own wife or his own child, he will have to seek somebody else’s help; he will have to ask some other surgeon – because now the problem is so close. It is as if he is operating on himself. As it is difficult to operate on oneself, it is difficult to operate on people who are close to us; we lose all skill. But whenever we are helping somebody who is not close to us, suddenly we become wise, we have the skill.

If we go on helping others, thinking, meditating for others about their problems, watching, analysing, finding clues, we forget ourselves completely, and one day suddenly we will see that our own problems have disappeared on the way.