Why we tend to forget Beautiful Moments
The most innocent and fun loving moments of our
life are till we reach the age of 4-5, we see that with our own children, the
joy we get as they grow up in complete innocence. We too had those innocent
moments – but how many of us remember any of those moments? Those four-five
years in the very beginning were the best - no responsibility, no worry, no
tension. Life was simply a romance, a sheer joy, but people don’t remember it.
And it is very strange that everybody’s memory
stops nearabout the age of four or five. It seems the best in us is not
recorded. Perhaps it is a biological strategy that we should forget it; if we
remember it, then for our whole life we will feel we are missing it. We are
missing it because we have seen the most beautiful moments, and now everything is
dull, pale, dead. It will not have that lustre, that joy, that liveliness.
Perhaps it is a strategy of biology not to record those beautiful moments.
As we grow up and get used to the not so innocent
life, the lies, the cons, the tragedy of relationships, we find that our mind
functions in a very strange way. We notice that we remember everything miserable
that happens to us very quickly. If someone insults us, we don’t forget it for
our whole life. So many people show us respect and love, but we forget that.
One person’s insult becomes a life-long memory, which keeps hurting even after
umpteen years!
It seems that the ugly, the dark, the humiliating,
the tragic have a priority as far as remembrance is concerned. All that is
good, all that is beautiful is simply forgotten; they leave no marks on our
memory.
We wonder why we tend to forget the beautiful
moments. It is natural, because the mind is not interested in taking note of
the flowers, it is interested in taking note of the thorns. Anything that
hurts, it immediately takes note of – that’s the funny thing about the brain.
Who cares about a flower? We remember our enemies
better than our friends. Just watch the mind and one will be surprised that one
remembers one’s enemy more than one’s friends. We can forget our friends, but not
our enemies. This is our insane mind.
A saner mind will look at things from just the
opposite direction: it will count the blessings, it will count all that is
beautiful, it will keep note of all it has to be grateful for. And then,
naturally the life of such a person will become a life of blessings, surrounded
by all beautiful experiences. It is only a question of changing a small
structure in our mind.
Start capturing all the beautiful things that
happen in life. And these are happening to everybody. And anything that is not
beautiful is not worth remembering, not worth collecting. Why burden oneself with
rubbish when one can be full of flowers and fragrance? We just have to make a
little change in our natural biological mind.
Meditation can do it very easily. One of the
essential parts of meditation is to look at the good side of things, to look at
the good side of people, to look at the good side of incidents, so that we are
surrounded with everything good. Surrounded with all beautiful things, our
growth is easier.
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