Don’t Worry About Failures

 

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Don’t Worry About Failures

Life is meant not only for winners, but for losers as well. Most people usually only speak about their successes while brushing their failures under the carpet. But if one desires true success one has to think about failures as well, actually pay more attention to the failures so that lessons can be learnt. Most of us take hundred percent credit for successes and end up blaming others or the situation for our failures.

Blaming others for failures is a natural human response, because we have never been trained to accept responsibility for our actions. Karma rules our lives and we have to accept ownership and responsibility for our thoughts, words and deeds. The very fact that one has faced failures in life means such people have accepted challenges, that there has been adventure! Whenever a task is undertaken, success or failure follow like a shadow. Sometimes we win, sometimes we lose. The important thing is whether we win or lose, we take it in our stride and move forward in life with complete positivity. If we mope around for being unsuccessful in spite of our best efforts, we are digging our own grave.

In life there is no attainment; there cannot be. That is not the nature of life. When life fails, it fails utterly. Whether one fails or succeeds makes no difference — the failure is the same. Those who fail, certainly they fail; but those who succeed, they ALSO fail, and in the same proportion. To see this is of great import. A great thinker, Ruskin, has said that in life there are only two disappointments: to desire a thing and not to get it, and to desire a thing and to get it. Only two disappointments. If you don’t get it, certainly you are disappointed. But if you get it, then too you are disappointed — because whatsoever you were hoping is not attained through it. It is something else. That hope was YOUR projection; it was not reality.

Failure fails, success fails too. To see this is to let hope evaporate. It does not matter whether one dies rich or poor. It does not matter whether we die as sinners or saints. It does not matter whether we die well-known or unknown, famous or notorious. Death comes and destroys everything. Death is very democratic; it does not believe in hierarchies. It does not bother whether the person was a peon or a prime minister. It simply comes! and dust falls into dust and disappears.

It won’t help one in any way that one is rich; it won’t help one in any way that one is famous; it won’t help in any way that one is a great emperor, this or that. If we can see it while we are alive, then something is possible — something which is beyond life and death.