Why we tend to forget Beautiful Moments

 

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Why we tend to forget Beautiful Moments

The most innocent and fun loving moments of our life are till we reach the age of 4-5, we see that with our own children, the joy we get as they grow up in complete innocence. We too had those innocent moments – but how many of us remember any of those moments? Those four-five years in the very beginning were the best - no responsibility, no worry, no tension. Life was simply a romance, a sheer joy, but people don’t remember it.

And it is very strange that everybody’s memory stops nearabout the age of four or five. It seems the best in us is not recorded. Perhaps it is a biological strategy that we should forget it; if we remember it, then for our whole life we will feel we are missing it. We are missing it because we have seen the most beautiful moments, and now everything is dull, pale, dead. It will not have that lustre, that joy, that liveliness. Perhaps it is a strategy of biology not to record those beautiful moments.

As we grow up and get used to the not so innocent life, the lies, the cons, the tragedy of relationships, we find that our mind functions in a very strange way. We notice that we remember everything miserable that happens to us very quickly. If someone insults us, we don’t forget it for our whole life. So many people show us respect and love, but we forget that. One person’s insult becomes a life-long memory, which keeps hurting even after umpteen years!

It seems that the ugly, the dark, the humiliating, the tragic have a priority as far as remembrance is concerned. All that is good, all that is beautiful is simply forgotten; they leave no marks on our memory.

We wonder why we tend to forget the beautiful moments. It is natural, because the mind is not interested in taking note of the flowers, it is interested in taking note of the thorns. Anything that hurts, it immediately takes note of – that’s the funny thing about the brain.

Who cares about a flower? We remember our enemies better than our friends. Just watch the mind and one will be surprised that one remembers one’s enemy more than one’s friends. We can forget our friends, but not our enemies. This is our insane mind.

A saner mind will look at things from just the opposite direction: it will count the blessings, it will count all that is beautiful, it will keep note of all it has to be grateful for. And then, naturally the life of such a person will become a life of blessings, surrounded by all beautiful experiences. It is only a question of changing a small structure in our mind.

Start capturing all the beautiful things that happen in life. And these are happening to everybody. And anything that is not beautiful is not worth remembering, not worth collecting. Why burden oneself with rubbish when one can be full of flowers and fragrance? We just have to make a little change in our natural biological mind.

Meditation can do it very easily. One of the essential parts of meditation is to look at the good side of things, to look at the good side of people, to look at the good side of incidents, so that we are surrounded with everything good. Surrounded with all beautiful things, our growth is easier.