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Why do we Blame Others?
The reason why people blame other is that
it’s a quick escape from guilt. It is very easy to blame others and is an
effortless tactic to use when we feel defensive. Basically, by blaming others,
we refuse responsibility for our contributions to the problem. The blame game
could be with friends, family, colleagues, business associates, etc – and it is
always the easy way out without accepting responsibility for one’s own actions.
This invariably results in bad blood between the parties involved in any such
incident.
Every person is the architect of his own life, nevertheless when
things go wrong, we start pointing fingers while completely forgetting that three
fingers are pointing back at the self! I am sure all of you at some point or
the other have said, “I am responsible for my actions.” But did you really mean
it? While playing this blame game we forget that as per the law of karma, the
ones who change themselves first are the ones who get the gift of happiness.
Hence if we are seekers of happiness, then we need to change ourselves first.
We fail to recognise our own faults because we always feel ‘we are
right’. Failure to see the other person’s point of view results in getting
attached to our own rights and wrongs. Consequently, this leads us to
correcting others which invariably fails. This failure makes us feel miserable
and then it becomes a vicious cycle. We end up blaming others for our misery
and desperately try to change them!
If we do not find people to blame, we end up blaming the situation
while forgetting that all life’s situations are our own creations! In fact, we
even go to the extent of blaming God while forgetting that everything we
experience in the present is a result of our past karma. God always guides us
and shows us the way but he will not take the examination for us.
All unpleasant situations in life are our examinations – if we
appear for them honestly with courage, they help us take a leap forward in our
own inner-progress. It does not matter whether we pass or fail these exams,
what is important is the courage and vigour with which we approach and face these
exams.
Swamiji always teaches us to observe our own selves and not others
– observing the self is the first rule of spirituality. It is extremely
important to take responsibility for the experiences we face and then make an
honest effort to the right thing and be accountable to one’s self. The more we
turn inwards, the clearer will be our attitude while facing life’s tough
situations; become a witness and face life with detachment because life has
only happening based on our past karma – we face them and progress spiritually.
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