Ideals and Perfection
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In India we are taught values on how to live idealistically
very early in life. It is part of the culture, at least it used to be so.
Today, with the spread of westernisation, western values are taking over and
the traditional ideals are giving way to what is known as the woke culture! We
are all brought up in such a way that everybody has become idealistic. Nobody
is realistic. We are brought up in such a way that we think we have to become
somebody, sometime in the future. An image is created and we have to try and
become like that image! That itself creates tension in us because we are
expected to become something which we are not.
Because we are not living up to the expectation,
that ideal becomes a kind of condemnation of our life and we live in continuous
tension. Whatsoever we do is imperfect as we have an ideal of perfection to
live up to! Whatsoever we attain will never be fulfilling because we have an
insane expectation which can never be satisfied.
In spirituality we practice becoming one with
ourself, we do not practice perfection as perceived in the material world.
Never try to be perfect otherwise all we do is create anxiety. We live in a
world full of problems, why create more for ourselves. Life’s problems can
always be solved, but problems that idealism gives can never be solved.
A perfectionist is neurotic. And not only is he neurotic, he creates
neurotic trends around him. So do not be a perfectionist, and if somebody is a
perfectionist around you escape away from him as fast as you can before he
pollutes your mind.
All
perfectionism is a sort of deep ego trip. Just to think of yourself in terms of
ideals and perfection is nothing but to decorate your ego to its uttermost. A
humble person accepts that life is not perfect. A humble person, a really
religious person, accepts that we are limited, that there are limitations. Not
to try to be perfect is to be humble.
And a
humble person becomes more and more total because such a person has nothing to
deny, nothing to reject. He / She accepts whatsoever he/she is, good, bad. And
a humble person is very rich because such a person accepts his/her wholeness; anger,
sex, greed, jealousy — everything is accepted. In that deep acceptance a great
alchemical change happens. All that is ugly by and by disappears on its own
accord. Such a person becomes more and more harmonious, more and more whole.
Perfectionists are the
chosen people of God. In fact, the day we understand that we are
creating our own misery because of our ideas, we break all ideas. Then we
simply live out of our reality — whatsoever it is. That is a great
transformation. No point in trying to be God’s chosen people, just be human!
1 comment:
wonderfully explained about perfectionist myth. it's simply ego trip.
just live life fully and peacefully
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