Don’t Compare Love

 

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Don’t Compare Love

We may have compared ourselves with others when it comes to devotion, respect, love towards our parents, siblings, lovers and also our Gurus and found ourselves wanting. Actually, there is nothing to be worried about, all of us have our own forms of insanity when it comes to love and when that love is towards our Guru – it is never comparable! That is simply because it all depends on the level of our surrender and acceptance that we feel towards our Guru.

In spirituality the level required is total, complete, unconditional surrender and acceptance without allowing the intellect to interfere and create obstacles. Everybody has their own way of being in love. Never compare it. Somebody may be dancing, may be ecstatic and singing, and somebody else may be sitting silently with closed eyes. Both are mad in their own ways. Don’t think that you are not mad and the one who is dancing is mad, because one who is dancing will think, “Are you mad? You have fallen in love and are still sitting with closed eyes? What are you doing there? Dance!”

Each individual’s madness is unique – just as nobody’s face is the same, nobody’s fingerprints are the same, nobody’s aura is the same – no one has the madness that you feel. Everything and everybody are unique – everything is in flux; change is happening all the time.

Everybody falls in love in their own unique way. And it is good; it has to be so. Never compare. With comparison the trouble arises. Then we feel that we are missing something. Our love is calm and quiet and respectful. Then we start thinking there must be something wrong. Why are we not so passionately in love? Why are we not like a storm, why are we blowing like a small breeze? But that is our way. And God needs both. Storm and storm and storm…. He also needs a little rest. A little breeze is always handy.

Don’t be worried. This is how God is happening to each one of us. Never compare. Just look within oneself and enjoy whatsoever is happening so it can happen more. Enjoy it, delight in it, and it will happen more. We may become even more gentle; even the breeze may disappear and stop. It has happened that way also. There are as many ways towards God as there are seekers. Everybody has their own way and there are no super-highways. Everybody walks on his own path.

In fact, the path is not found ready-made. We create it by walking, and it disappears when we have gone on ahead. Nobody else can walk on it; it is never left behind. It is just like the birds flying in the sky. Once they have flown, they don’t leave any footprints. Nobody can follow it. There is no need. Don’t compare. Be contented with the self. Enjoy, delight — we should help our own selves to be unique. This is OUR way.

Swamiji has shown us the path – we follow it and create our own unique footprint, which fades away with time as we near our goal, and once the goal is reached there is no need for anything else….we have now become bliss untold, undefined!