Perception becomes Reality

 

Perception becomes Reality

In relationships with friends and family there are many instances when certain incidents take place and only one side of the story gets narrated. The other person in the situation prefers to keep quiet as narrating the other side of the story could seriously damage long term relationships – whether it is with friends or relatives. This is because the characters in the story are too closely knitted and the whole story has the potential to play spoil sport and damage existing relationships. It is somewhat akin to how the media reports today – it is reporting one side of the story and setting a narrative – and once that narrative is set then changing perceptions is hard work and requires a lot of convincing with proof of the occurrence etc.

This is all the more critical when there are small children in the narrative and they get close to one parent/sibling and are invariably influenced by that parent/sibling to such an extent that the mindset gets fixed at a young age and then changing the perception becomes dangerous, hence in such situations it is better to let sleeping dogs lie and life just goes on. The other parent/sibling adjusts and moves on as life is too complicated to rock the boat, especially when the waters have calmed down with the passage of time! And in such cases perception becomes reality and that is what is held to be fact!

Once you become a seeker and start following the spiritual path then you start accepting situations in life, you learn to go with the flow, because the flowing river ultimately has to complete its journey and merge with the ocean and lose its identity!

Trying to change the narrative specially after the children grow up will always be more damaging and could result in more stress for the whole group – thus whether we grow up as friends or relatives – once the narrative has been set without being questioned right at the outset then it is better to let the perception become the reality.

With meditation comes acceptance and with acceptance comes solace and that works as  a soothing balm on whatever has transpired in the past – we learn to accept and move on, live in the present moment, which in any case is the only reality – that is because we live with every breath we inhale and die with every breath we exhale. The moment this stops the story ends!