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Acceptance
If we have a certain
idea of how we should be, then we cannot accept the experiential truths of our
being. If we have the idea that we have to be brave persons, that bravery is a
value, then it is difficult to accept our cowardice. If we have the idea that we
have to be a saint-like person – compassionate, absolutely
compassionate – then we cannot accept our anger. It is the ideal that
creates the problem.
If
we don't have any ideals, then there is no problem at all. We are cowards, so we
are cowards. And because there is no ideal of being brave people, we don't
condemn the fact. We don't reject it; we don't repress it; we don't throw it
into the basement of our being so that there is no need for us ever to look at
it. Anything that we throw into our unconscious will go on functioning from
there; it will go on creating problems for us.
If
a person can accept his reality as it is, in that very acceptance all tension
disappears. Anguish, anxiety, despair all simply evaporate. And when there is
no anxiety, no tension, no fragmentation, no division, no schizophrenia, then
suddenly there is joy, then suddenly there is love, then suddenly there is
compassion. These are not ideals; these are very natural phenomena. All that is
needed is to remove the ideals because those ideals are functioning as blocks.
The more idealist a person is, the more blocked he is.
Psychological pain
ends only by accepting it in its totality. Psychological pain does not exist
just because of the mere presence alone of some stimulus or reality termed
‘painful.’ Rather, the pain is produced by the interpretation of the fact or
reality which produces the tendency to avoid or resist that fact. Try to
understand it. Psychological pain is our own creation.
Pain
is not inherent in any feeling but arises only after the intent to reject it
arises. The moment we decide to reject something, pain arises. Acceptance
releases us from all pain.
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