Why do we Blame Others?

 

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Why do we Blame Others?

The reason why people blame other is that it’s a quick escape from guilt. It is very easy to blame others and is an effortless tactic to use when we feel defensive. Basically, by blaming others, we refuse responsibility for our contributions to the problem. The blame game could be with friends, family, colleagues, business associates, etc – and it is always the easy way out without accepting responsibility for one’s own actions. This invariably results in bad blood between the parties involved in any such incident.

Every person is the architect of his own life, nevertheless when things go wrong, we start pointing fingers while completely forgetting that three fingers are pointing back at the self! I am sure all of you at some point or the other have said, “I am responsible for my actions.” But did you really mean it? While playing this blame game we forget that as per the law of karma, the ones who change themselves first are the ones who get the gift of happiness. Hence if we are seekers of happiness, then we need to change ourselves first.

We fail to recognise our own faults because we always feel ‘we are right’. Failure to see the other person’s point of view results in getting attached to our own rights and wrongs. Consequently, this leads us to correcting others which invariably fails. This failure makes us feel miserable and then it becomes a vicious cycle. We end up blaming others for our misery and desperately try to change them!

If we do not find people to blame, we end up blaming the situation while forgetting that all life’s situations are our own creations! In fact, we even go to the extent of blaming God while forgetting that everything we experience in the present is a result of our past karma. God always guides us and shows us the way but he will not take the examination for us.

All unpleasant situations in life are our examinations – if we appear for them honestly with courage, they help us take a leap forward in our own inner-progress. It does not matter whether we pass or fail these exams, what is important is the courage and vigour with which we approach and face these exams.

Swamiji always teaches us to observe our own selves and not others – observing the self is the first rule of spirituality. It is extremely important to take responsibility for the experiences we face and then make an honest effort to the right thing and be accountable to one’s self. The more we turn inwards, the clearer will be our attitude while facing life’s tough situations; become a witness and face life with detachment because life has only happening based on our past karma – we face them and progress spiritually.